The expert warned about the risks of speed dating after the New Year

In the run—up to New Year's Eve, many people have no time or energy left for their personal lives - all their efforts are spent on work and preparing for the holidays, and new acquaintances are postponed. After the New Year, the rhythm slows down, and against the background of silence, the feeling of loneliness becomes more noticeable, which makes you want to enter into a relationship as soon as possible. Natalia Krasilnikova, PR Director of Mamba, told Izvestia on January 20 why the January rush to find a partner often turns into disappointment and how to avoid typical dating mistakes.

She noted that the January surge in dating activity is often dictated not by internal readiness for a relationship, but by external expectations and New Year's stereotypes. The desire to be in a couple urgently can replace a conscious choice when a person is looking for a relationship not out of interest in a particular partner, but to get rid of the anxiety of loneliness or meet social expectations.

"The desire to start a relationship urgently in January is often fueled by stereotypes. After all, it is generally believed that you need to enter the new year with something new, including in the personal sphere. This external pressure is perceived as one's own decision. People confuse motivation caused by external stimuli with their personal willingness to have a relationship," the expert explained.

She warns that the desire to speed up the dating process often leads to typical mistakes. Among them is focusing on the fact of having a relationship rather than the person next to you, reducing your own demands, ignoring differences in views and values, and forcing emotional and physical rapprochement before the partners have time to get to know each other. In such cases, the relationship often starts quickly and ends just as quickly.

In addition, people can expect that a partner will automatically make their lives more fulfilling and comfortable. When this does not happen, the disappointment is especially strong. Krasilnikova emphasizes that a real interest in a person differs from the desire to simply "be in a relationship": in the first case, there is a desire to get to know a partner and gradually build a connection, in the second, almost anyone who meets the basic criteria is suitable for the role of a companion.

In order not to make hasty decisions, the expert advises to abandon strict deadlines in your personal life, listen more carefully to your own feelings after dating and not rush the development of events. According to her, gradual acquaintance and alignment of key values remain a more reliable basis for a relationship than an urgent attempt to fill the void after the New Year holidays.

Earlier, on April 23, it was reported that modern Russians are increasingly using psychological compatibility as the main criterion for choosing a partner. Thus, 88% of women and 82% of men check the psychotype of a potential life partner before starting a serious relationship.

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