The psychologist explained the pragmatic approach of generation Z to relationships

Generation Z has become more attentive to choosing a partner and more often takes into account not only feelings, but also the compatibility of views on life, financial habits and plans for the future. However, this does not mean that young people began to choose relationships solely for convenience. Olga Kushnareva, a family psychologist and psychotherapist, told Izvestia about this on July 21.

According to the expert, modern youth have become more pragmatic about their relationships. For representatives of generation Z, a partner is not only an object of romantic feelings, but also a person next to whom it should be comfortable to build a daily life. Therefore, financial stability, career prospects, attitude to money and level of responsibility can play an important role in choosing a couple.

"This does not mean that love has disappeared. It's just that Generation Z is less willing to tolerate relationships in which there is passion, but there is no respect, stability and normal dialogue," Kushnareva said.

The psychologist added that earlier in society there was more often romanticization of difficulties in relationships — for example, the idea that love is able to overcome any problems. Nowadays, young people are more likely to ask questions about psychological comfort, the coincidence of life goals and the ability to remain themselves next to their partner.

Social media has also influenced the formation of new expectations from relationships. According to Kushnareva, users regularly see photos of other people's travels, gifts, weddings, and successful couples, which can form an idea of a certain standard of living and make them compare their own relationships with others.

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As a result, the partner begins to be perceived not only as a close person, but also as part of a common lifestyle. At the same time, according to the expert, both men and women experience such pressure.

Kushnareva stressed that a rational approach to choosing a partner is not a problem in itself. According to her, mature relationships are rarely built solely on emotions — respect, sympathy, mutual interest, attraction and the ability to negotiate are also important.

At the same time, the psychologist warned that relationships can become unhealthy if a person begins to perceive a partner solely as a resource or a "project." In this case, it's not feelings and values that come first, but benefits and status.

"With healthy pragmatism, a person asks: Can we build a normal life together? Do our values match? Do we know how to negotiate? With the consumer approach, the partner is evaluated as a set of functions," the specialist explained.

According to Kushnareva, representatives of generation Z have not given up on love and romance, but they have become less willing to sacrifice personal boundaries and psychological comfort in order to preserve relationships. The new approach is not to give up feelings, but to strive to choose a partner more consciously.

Psychologist Larisa Karavaytseva told Izvestia on June 9 that calmness in relationships is often confused with boredom. In her opinion, some people get so used to emotional stress that they begin to associate it with love.